Your Greatest Personal Weakness
What if you could find the career that fits you by reframing your weakness? Or what if your greatest weakness was really your secret weapon? It turns out it actually is.
Many high achievers live with a loud inner critic. The voice in their heads reminds them of past mistakes, motivating them to do everything possible to perform perfectly in future opportunities. Constant reminders of where they’ve missed the mark push them to hit the bullseye in their follow-up attempts. This seems like a reasonable (albeit painful) system, and it works for many people.
But what if I told you these people have a drastically greater chance at achieving career happiness if they focus on honing strengths instead of correcting their weaknesses? Furthermore, what if you discovered your “weaknesses” are actually a necessary counterpart to your strengths?
How ADHD Became Ross’ Superpower
When my friend Ross was growing up, he realized his brain worked a little differently from others. He tried his best to listen in class, and anytime he felt confused, he raised his hand to ask a clarifying question. The problem was, all his classmates started giggling when he asked questions. Apparently the teacher had already said whatever he needed to know.
Ross wasn’t intentionally ignoring his teachers, and eventually he discovered he had ADHD. Relieved to have a name for the problem but embarrassed and discouraged by the difficulties it placed on learning, Ross couldn’t wait to be out of school.
Throughout every class, Ross felt the thorn of ADHD in his side. He counted down the days until college graduation, fully ready to put ADHD in his rearview mirror. But when he joined the career world, he realized his ADHD would factor into his work life as well.
After struggling to land a role he wanted, Ross decided to pick up a part-time job at his local Apple Store. Twenty hours per week, he served customers in a store that—as he describes it—was the size of a shoebox. Naturally interested in all things Apple, Ross found ease in creatively solving problems for customers. On top of this, his high energy overflowed throughout his shoebox-sized store, and every time he walked through the doors, his peers became more motivated. This in-between job quickly turned into a world he loved and thrived in.
“I can’t remember a time in my life where I had received so much affirmation for just being me.”
A few months into his job, Ross realized he received more daily compliments and affirmations than ever before. He’d accidentally landed in a role that tapped into his natural gifts, and people couldn’t help but notice. He started hearing phrases like:
“How are you so good at this?”
“How did you learn to talk to customers like that?”
“I really appreciate the energy that you bring. You light up our room.”
“I feel like when you're here, your enthusiasm rubs off on me and I'm more excited about the day.”
The feeling was incredible. Imagine getting constant praise for just living out your natural strengths. At first, Ross didn’t realize the energy came from his ADHD. However, when a performance review left him with some negative feedback he’d heard as a schoolboy, he realized he hadn’t “graduated” out of ADHD. This was something he needed to learn to deal with even outside of the classroom.
For help in this endeavor, Ross began meeting with an ADHD coach. As he worked with the coach, developing practices to be productive alongside his deficit, he also met with a giant epiphany: ADHD wasn’t his kryptonite—it was his superpower.
A New Name for Weakness
Through conversations with his coach, Ross started to connect the dots on his strengths and perceived weaknesses. He began to realize his tendency to get bored with details and his unending energy to go, go, go came from the same place: ADHD.
This is where Ross began to reframe his thinking. Instead of focusing on the ADHD thorn in his side, he realized that without it, he wouldn’t have this energy that differentiated him from everyone else in the world. Ross didn’t need to feel embarrassed about the side effects of his disorder; he could begin to appreciate his strengths and acknowledge the shadow side of those strengths, also known as his anti-strengths. He found a Happen To Your Career coach and began dreaming of careers that utilized his strengths and minimized the need for his anti-strengths.
If this is your first time hearing about anti-strengths, let me explain.
Anti-strengths are those traits that appear to be weaknesses, but in actuality they are connected to key strengths that make you successful. For example, my friend Rushi is highly organized and creates incomparable project plans for his company. When he is named a project leader, his coworkers hope they will be placed on his team. They know they can expect hyper-focused attention to detail that will guide them throughout the entire process. However, Rushi can also be slow to get started on a project or find difficulty in focusing if his office isn’t in tip-top shape. His family says he is almost OCD-like in much of his behavior. Rushi thought this need for things to be just right was a weakness until he realized it’s a shadow of what makes him successful.
Now, Rushi has repositioned his thoughts about these tendencies: “My organization is a great strength because it helps things run very smoothly, but it can cause me to move more slowly because I want everything perfect.” He no longer views this flaw as a burdensome weakness but as a natural part of his unique gifts.
What’s your superpower?
We all have anti-strengths. They are the negative habits that come along with your special abilities. When you learn how to reframe your perception of your weakness, you’ll be better positioned to focus on your strengths. (You can also find a guide on using your strengths to get hired here.)
As you figure out your superpower, you should try to imagine what you simply can’t stop doing. In Ross’ case, his high level of energy made it where he couldn’t be lethargic if he tried. In Rushi’s case, his need for organization made it where he couldn’t possibly turn in a shoddy project timeline. Discovering your unique strengths and the resulting positive and negative effects of each one will help you pursue roles that fit. As you identify anti-strengths, instead of pushing yourself to improve a weakness, you can simply choose a different route.
Today, Ross is leaning into his superpower. His ADHD that fuels his high energy and motivation makes him the perfect fit for a traveling speaker and thought leader. Now, he travels around talking to students about the positive power of ADHD. He’s discovered how tapping into his innate sensibilities can help transform the world. As he puts it, “These are the moments that fill my bucket. It makes me feel this monumental sense of purpose…this is what I’m designed to do.”
To find out the steps Ross took to find his strengths and create his ideal career, listen to our interview at the play button below.
Transcript from Episode
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Scott: Hey, welcome back to the happen to your career podcast. I am incredibly excited to be here with today's guests because he's done some pretty amazing things and our team got the opportunity to sit front row a bit along the way and on top of that. He's also very passionate about something that I get very excited about because it's near and dear to my heart and that topic is ADHD and we're going to talk about that. But first I want to welcome to the Happen To Your Career podcast Ross Loofbourrow. How are you?
Ross: I’m doing so great Scott. Thanks for having me today.
Scott: Absolutely. This is going to be a fun conversation and we're going to talk about ADHD. We're going to and I've got so many questions for you there because I know that one of the things that you get very excited about is looking at that as a good thing. It's a positive thing and as a superpower and I have I've had the same. Yeah, I've had the same outlook for many years, but I know that's not always a popular outlook and we're gonna dive into that but I'm so curious long before this was something that was something that you've spoken about and I know before we hit the record, but we're talking about just really fun engagement that you got to do going speaking to a group of kids, which was
Scott: Awesome. So I'll ask you about all those things but long before this where did this all start? Where did this all begin for you? Where did you begin your career?
Ross: Yeah. So I started my career at Apple. How that happened? Well, my parents basically said you better get a job and all the goals and the things I thought was going to happen when I graduated college didn't ended up moving in with my grandparents. Just very uncool in my mind and started saving money started trying to you know by ring and get married and I fell into a job at the Apple Store. A friend of mine worked there and someone I really respected had amazing thing to say about it and five interviews later for a part-time retail specialist role. How is it now? That was over nine years ago today.
Scott: Yeah. I'm curious what you said. Some of the things that you thought would happen didn't as you came out of school and then that led to moving in your with your grandma, which you thought was uncool maybe some people do. My grandma was pretty cool. But I don't know that I would have wanted to live with her necessarily so kudos to you. But what were some of those things that you thought would happen that didn't in that way.
Ross: Yeah, so when I graduated, everyone talks about missing you here. You know, what are you doing graduate and know if you really are having things and you got your life in order, you know, exactly the job you're going to have when you step out of that school. And so I lined up what I thought was a great opportunity as an admissions counselor at my school and I've been had been a tour guide all four years. I love doing that and I just felt pretty confident that it was going to happen because I knew everybody in the office now ultimately told hey Ross after an extensive interview process. Hey Ross if we had one more spot. It would go to you. I'm so sorry. So that blew up my world and I thought I was going to be a live my friends in Santa Barbara after I graduated. And I had to move home and moved in with my grandparents who are awesome, but I never dreamed I would live with them
Scott: Yes, totally.
Ross: So, yeah, that's the plan I had that completely crumbled in front of me and it was an ultimate love at that moment where I was like, what am I doing?
Scott: What happened from there then that you got the you ended up working at the Apple Store five interviews into it. And boom. You got your part-time a role and
Ross: That’s right
Scott: What happened?
Ross: Yes I started to store. It was actually one of ended up being the last Mini Apple Store in the entire world is the store that I started at.
Ross: This store people can't even conceptualize how small it was. It was the size of a shoebox. Honestly. It was a little crazy like a submarine at times. So I stated there and thought man I'm here for maybe three or six months till the work experience. Slap it on my resume and I'm out of here. I'm going to go get a big boy job for have a college degree. I loved it and I started getting so much affirmation really quickly. Hey man, how are you so good at this like, where did you learn how to do that? Like how you talk to people like that? And the way you just described the iPad was like so cool and fresh. Like I never thought of describing it that way.
Ross: And I can’t remember a time in my life where I was receiving so much affirmation for just being me. I thought that's just kind of fun. So I start with it and I was like a from part-time role into a full-time role. Then I became one of the first experts when Apple rolled up that role to that stores and then within about two years. I became a manager. Which was really rare at the time you know people don't realize that in 2009 you know what the percentage chance was that you got a job at Apple any role. Part time, retail specialist you name it. Guess what’s the percentage chance was 80%, 40% and this is for iPad before watch. Believe it?
Scott: I would say like 20% 30%
Scott: 2%? Oh my goodness, I highballed it.
Ross: About getting a job at Apple or so. And so I got in and
Ross: I was loving it for became a manager which was really rare at the time to be promoted from within to that role and then ultimately have worked now it five different Apple stores in the bay area have worked alongside hundreds of different people have had a plethora of different coworkers. And Now I’m a manager at the Monterey location. So yeah, it's been a ride for sure.
Scott: So here's what I'm curious about them. You got into Apple realized very quickly that hey there are some of these things that people are appreciating about me. Obviously latch onto those and doubled it sounds like double down in some of those areas started in realizing that hey this is I’m enjoying getting this feedback. I'm enjoying getting this affirmation. I'm enjoying actually doing these things that are that are getting there and then dive further into it. Clearly that was rewarded as well, which I think is super cool by the way leaning into some of those areas that you are already loving and already adding value to the world. I mean, that's obviously something we spend a lot of time talking about here. So you were able to do that there. But also somewhere along the way I know that you became interested in doing additional things too and
Scott: You know, I alluded to this at the very beginning. I know that you experienced ADHD and I know that somewhere along the way you decided you were interested in integrating the speaking component into your career, too? So how did that come to be? What was what caused you to begin even thinking about that wayback when and then later to start doing it?
Ross: Yeah. So, it's a great question. And yeah, it all started a few years ago. I've got this point in my journey at Apple had been a manager for for quite a while at that time had held a bunch of different roles. As a manager, you know managers will oversee different areas of the store. So I done that for quite some time and you know, I was kind of getting this age like man. I’m millennial I don't feel like one because I've been at the same company for so long. I haven't resisted moving but so many people my age are jumping from company to company. So I was getting a little restless kind of wondering like am I doing right thing? Am I am I becoming stagnant? I don't want to be stagnant.
Scott: Am I really a millennial?
Ross: Yeah. Exactly I've been called an old soul.
Scott: I get that too. Totally understand also a millennial just barely
Ross: So, I hit this point where ultimately my everything yeah, I came you can call a career made a moment a career staller and I'm the biggest way.
Ross: The first time in my career. I had coworkers and I had people that I reported to sharing with me. You know it Ross, I don't know if you really have what it takes to continue being a successful leader here at Apple any longer.
Ross: And dumping like a lot of negative feedback on me and more than that I never seen. This was caught me totally by surprise. Like I got hit by a truck and actually, I started spiraling which we can do with ADHD. I thought with Plan B. I don't have plan C. All I've done is Apple like what in the world am I going to do if I'm not here?. Well, that is when I decided, you know, Ross you can't keep ignoring your ADHD because I graduated college. I said forget it. I've never thinking about my ADHD again. It has been a nightmare for me worrying about school and ADHD made it worse. I'm going to live my life so I do. What workout up to that point pretending it wasn't their didn't talk about it and never let other people know. And then this moment occurred where holy smokes I mean, I absolutely felt like I could lose my job if I don't pivot quickly in a different direction.
Ross: So I got the help I needed. I started looking for a clinic. A place where I could really start to harness and understand my ADHD brain because really at that time I didn’t and that’s what I found my first ADHD coach. Working with ADHD coach week over week for a year and now it was not cheap is significant that myself and that was the star of unlocking the new ways that I view ADHD and then ultimately that's what led me to Happen To Your Career. And that's what led me to working with you guys is that continued asses questions of you know, where can I add more value to the world. Apple has blessed me with understanding here is where I can hear my gift share my strength, but whilst I do it those things. That is
Scott: So let me post things that, so there's so much there and just a little bit of backstory. I am very high on the ADD spectrum kind of middle as far as when if you're looking at it on the Spectrum. You can a middle to high on the what many people consider the ADHD spectrum and I have three children that all fall into various different ranges of that too. So this is very much my world in a lot of different ways. So that's part of the reason why it's near and dear to my heart. What I'm curious about first because I am really interested in some of the things that you have since done but I'm curious where did you recognize you know was this when you were a kid, where did you recognize that it created some of these differences for you and one way or another.
Ross: Yeah, it was when I was in second grade. Second grade was kind of a culmination moment. I had noticed for quite a while there. People were laughing at me and ridiculing me when I would raise my hand and ask a question in class and I would be paying attention. I would be focusing as hard as I could. Ask these questions and everyone would giggle and laugh and as a second grader you feel horrible. Like, you know they’re not laughing with you, they’re laughing at you.
Scott: And the world is over after that, too.
Ross: The world is over and your life is ending and my mom who is an angel. I don't know if I would be here today without her to be honest. She helped me identify. And figure out that I had an auditory processing deficit and what that means is that I can be listening as hard as I want but things that come in to my brain certain things sometimes just don't compute they get left out so I can be you know, comprehending everything you're saying but then I don't even realize that 30 seconds or 2 minutes or a big chunk of what you are sharing. I do not remember. I can't recall and so that's why I would ask these questions, that’s was a big unlock moment and was like, okay this is happening. And then we also found out that I had ADHD it was a double whammy.
Scott: So recognized way back in second grade. Unfortunately, you had your mom there to help you begin to make sense of this in some way and start moving down that path and eventually started having the show back up all the way later, you know fast forward what, eight, ten years later or later ten years fully into your career. Actually after you got out of school. And then now for the first time you're having to reconcile with it again, and
Scott: It’s like that caused you to get some help and get some guidance on how to look at this thing and utilize it differently and we got the pleasure of working with you through as you were seeking out that out too. What point did you start realizing that I can take this thing and really help other people understand and begin to understand through speaking and engaging other people in different ways. To help them look at it as more of a gift than anything else. Where did that enter for you? Where did you first start thinking about that?
Ross: Yeah, so well, I think when I go back to Happen To Your Career’s, career change boot camp.
Ross: Yeah the webcast and call that you guys offer I had stumbled on your podcast, you know around this time. I found it and I never found anything quite like it. I'm like this exactly not to be listening to. Like where can I pivot, how can I find something that fits more and
Scott: Now your on it, just a year later.
Ross: Yeah and ultimately like I had ignored, I've seen that bootcamp, and I'd like, oh my God, I have time I'll time and it finally came up again on my radar and I thought I'm going to do this. I did that and that was when I met for the first time, you know in that environment, you know Lisa got to hear more from you and ultimately started working with Lisa after my ADHD coach and what was really interesting is my ADHD coach said he started to prime, you know, my thinking of kids that you know, your thought of doing like, you know, like video stuff like you're so animated like that. That could be something that you really enjoy doing it resonate with people and he started to plant seeds but working with Lisa. She was the first person ever to validate my crazy dream and that was she said, Ross, what do you really want to do? I said I want to be speaker. Like I want to be a speaker that motivates others that empowers them that brings them hope and helps them take those first steps to becoming more than they ever thought they could be. And she immediately said yes. I can really talk on the phone about 30 minutes, but I already trusted her enough. And for her to say hey Ross you can totally do that. That was a massive unlock and then it was figuring out. Okay? I want to do this. But who am I to speak on anything. Like what am I going to speak about? I'm not an expert on anything and that was when I ultimately started to dig down deep through those sessions with Lisa. Uncovering my what my biggest differentiators is the fact that I do have ADHD
Ross: And that I have you know seen both sides of it.
Ross: I've seen the ugly and I've also seen the good and what can I do with this and that led to getting in to relieve that focus around mental health and specifically in ADHD brain.
Scott: That's amazing and the thing I love about your story and what Lisa's shared with me and I told you she shared some tidbits along the way too. You didn't know about the, she was like Ross, there’s this awesome guy, you got like some point along the way you gotta meet him. And you know, one of the things that I was really impressed with that she had shared is. It was relatively short period of time that you started acting on this dream too. It wasn't like hey, okay, let's talk about this and then five years later, you know, maybe someday kind of will start doing this but to the point where even as you and I got on this call got to be able to record this interview this morning. You had just come off of a speaking engagement. Yesterday was yesterday is that we said?
Ross: Yeah yesterday.
Scott: Yeah, and I would love if you would share a little bit about that and what you got to go speak and how that turns out it gets you use the word humbling, but I really think that that's good. So set the set the stage for us. How did how did this happen in the first place? What led up to this in a speaking engagement? And who were the kids and what did you get to talk about to them about?
Ross: Yeah, it was to a couple schools over in Palo Alto.
Ross: I'm private schools that you know really focus on supporting kids with learning and attention challenges differences and the schools are right over the hill and ultimately is a connection that I made at a conference I spoke at last spring.
Ross: so last spring was kind of my it was my breaking out moment was the first time I ever talked about a ADHD being a superpower in the advantages and the gifts and so this a continued connection from that and ultimately yeah, I walked in there. I didn't know any of the kids. I spoke with a group of first group was 7th to 10th graders and then about 30 of them are so and then the second group pretty much immediately afterwards about fifth to eighth graders about another 30 so kids and yeah, I mean, you know, there are kids and some of them are, you know, they're dealing with their own challenges and so you know, you're there sharing, you know my message and I'm questioning myself the whole time thinking is this even resonating with this guy over here. I mean this little girl over here feels like she seems like she's really feeling what I'm sharing but I don't know and I was just filled with all kinds of doubt and thinking and this is a trainwreck. This is all horrible. And I came to discover afterwards that it actually went really well. I'll have the teachers had shared with me that the kids loved you and they want you to come back. Like you're welcome back anytime. You should come back and ride bikes. We gone morning bike rides, and I had kids coming up to me afterwards and tears. Just sharing. I mean you know fifth grade kids, seventh grade kids sharing. Hey, like I want to tell you my story nothing but don't say that this dive into it telling you about how hard there go at life has been and how now they're at the school that really understands them. Things are so much better.
Scott: That's amazing.
Ross: And then those are the moments that fill my bucket and it makes me feel this monumental sense of purpose and like wow, this is part of this is partly what have designed to do. I want to do more of that helping people in that way.
Scott: That is amazing on so many different levels and I love talking about those moments where you or anybody for that matter where you get a taste of that and you realized I have to do this more like in one way or another in.
Scott: I've had many of those over the course of the last 10 years and know exactly what I'm talking about for the first time I went and spoke on careers. Actually just this last week and I did a keynote and I totally understand by the way what you're talking about when you're looking at the crowd and you like things seems to be rested with this person this taking a picture with her phone and that person looks so bored and not even connecting, so I totally understand what goes through in that like the speaker brain in that way. So can absolutely it looks like
Ross: And the kids are like amplify
Scott: Oh my goodness! Yeah, like times a hundred at least. Yeah on steroids for sure. So I absolutely understand and appreciate that. Here's what I'm curious about then. Obviously a little biased for a number of reasons in terms of how I think about ADD, ADHD and other types of things that the world has a tendency to look at as disabilities in one way or another. But I'm really curious for you. Why do you believe that this is such a super power for you? Why do you believe this can be such a super power for other people as well?
Ross: Yeah, so one of the biggest reasons is my energy.
Ross: And I always put this to disclaimer out there if you are listening to this and you're thinking well, I have ADHD, but I don't have that energy factor. It doesn't mean you don't have ADHD and you don't have a brain like that. It just means it's a spectrum like you were just mentioning and some of us fall on the spectrum with the energy component and I certainly do. I don't drink coffee. This is all natural.
Scott: This is all… yeah awesome.
Ross: You know, as a kid that's never looked as a positive thing. So hey sit still be quiet pay attention. Like stop it, like, you know, they want to control you and that's the exact opposite of that's a nightmare for this energy component of mine. When I got to Apple. That's one of the key ways people describe me. I mean all see people now have been there so long that. I run into people I haven't seen in years and I'll say hey, you don't remember my name? Energy like dude, you're the energy guy and that's the word. It's by far the thing that people have said the most about me in such a positive way. And like I really appreciate the energy that you bring like the way that you light up our room, I feel like when you're here, like it just rubs off on me and like I'm more excited about the day just by default because of you and so like that was definitely a specific and I will call it a super power of ADHD and I sort of recognize, whoa, like most of the people don't innately have this and someone told me recently I told them yeah, I'm ADHD and you know, these are some of the things that I have believed and they looked at me and said well, we're all jealous. Because of my energy so that’s absolutely one of the key moments I started just to think, you know, there's got to be something more to this. What other things could there be and you know an Apple I spent a lot of time as a manager, you know working with my team and connecting with them. And I mean, one of the reason I love Apple so much is because we are such a human focused organization and we connect with our team around personal stuff. That's going on the highs, the lows and we, you know, help them understand, like, you know, their blind spots. And we remind them other gifts and things are amazing at it.The ability that I have this intuitive nature relationally to know the right thing to say. And no at the right moment to say it and almost just describe things in a way about people that have others around me go. No ones describe that person that way but you just nailed it. Like how is your gut so often right? I feel like it's most of the time spot on. So again like that intuitiveness that gut instinct my energy like those are some of the ways I might you know, there's something different about this.
Scott: Thats amazing.
Ross: That i will share.
Scott: That’s fantastic and I find it so fascinating and well, obviously, I'm very interested in this sort of thing, but the way that ADD, ADHD brains are wired for lack of a better explanation. It completely allows different types of connections when compared to the average person. I have been so interesting for me to see of myself and then my three kid who have all completely different elements of it. Like I didn't understand just I didn't understand tell he's really start my wife and I really started diving into this and she's been a teacher and actually did a number of projects on ADD and ADHD and a couple other things to throughout college way back when and then as part of her some continuing course work and so at the time she didn't know she’s going to have three children that we're going to test this knowledge later on for her.
Scott: but it's been really interesting to see all of the different ends of the spectrum. So for example, like you mentioned that incredible energy and how you show up differently and my son my middle son Camden. We see a manifest in similar ways, but also like to the point where people as a whole are terrible multitaskers, right? as a whole so this kid.
Ross: Well let me start on multitasking.
Scott: Oh my goodness. Yes.
Ross: it doesn't exist.
Scott: So it doesn't exist and not in any ways that are really helpful, but I am amazed at the capacity with this kid and his brain. He can be like out playing sports or doing something that occupies like 100% of the physical energy and still be able to like have perfect dictation and recall of exactly what somebody would faint over off to the side in another conversation with all of those with several other conversations around the side and just it blows in my minds behind in the ways that those types of things will show up with does not necessarily mean that, that's how it shows up in everybody to your point earlier.
Scott: but it's fascinating how it can turn into such a gift in a variety of different ways. So I appreciate you sharing it.
Ross: Yeah, oh absolutely.
Scott: what's next from here because you have i feel that in some way like you are unlocking a really cool piece of your own journey, and I so appreciate that you have allowed us to participate in a portion and a ride. And I'm just very grateful for that. And I know my team is as well and Lisa too and what is next and what is upcoming for you? Where do you see yourself going from here?
Ross: So, I'm just getting started and you know, I have to constantly remind myself that it is a journey and it's just one step at a time because one of those things that in ADHD brain is prone to do is we are have this gross misunderstanding of how much time it takes to accomplish things and so, you know, I will have 25 different large things on my to-do list on any given day
Ross: And so treating this journey the same way. It's really important to my myself. Okay, like it's one step at a time, and I'm just figuring things out. Right now I know that I want to continue speaking. I know that, that's an area where I can add so much value and really help others. I've already seen that. And you know, I want to continue when I continue to share resources and you know these differing thoughts and opinions and even ground breaking researches out there that people are just not even aware of the things that we're finding on ADHD. Like there's so much to still unknown, but it is fascinating and it blows people's minds. For example, I have to share one of those things. So what some of the latest like brain research were fighting with ADHD is that you could actually rename the condition a diagnosis of boredom. Wait, what do you mean? Well, ultimately what they found is that a brain with ADHD when compared to a brain without ADHD. All of our brains have the dopamine receptors that exist in this reward region of the brain that is deep beneath the cortex and in ADHD brain we have vastly fewer of these dopamine receptors. So in layman's terms like so what well essentially anyone beneath areas in your brain is likely walking around just generally disinterested in the world. Like in most of things around them there just you know, not most things don’t light their fire like a normal brain would, so that's why it's so critical for an ADHD here to find the final thing that passion about. Find the thing you love doing. And the thing that's right in your wheelhouse riding your strengths because that is the area where you're going to be able to hyper-focus in the best way not the worst way. That's the way that you're going to be able to discover, you know, kind of like I'm last couple years like it's the unlock moment. Oh my goodness. This is something I can do. This is the place I want to stay. Yeah, so that's one piece that I've just found fascinating learning about and it helps you look at yourself seriously and not look at your ADHD as a joke or this thing doesn't exist, but you really start to understand. Whoa. This is how I work. Okay, like let me take some steps in your directions but to answer your question. Yeah, I want to speak more actually set a goal this last year of I was going to write my first book. And you know that goal is probably not coming to fruition by the end of 2018.
Scott: there are still a short period of time in 2018 left, go ADHD brain go.
Ross: It's one of the spinning plates that is dropping and a you know, you can't beat yourself up if you say hey let's going to get done, but you try to do too much and that's all right, you know, let's keep it going. So I'm definitely going to do that in the future. I also want to get into coaching. That’s the component I think it massively helped me with that Happen To Your career. And then with my ADHD coach at the clinic that I worked with that it change my life. I just massive. So I really want to get into that see how I can help others. Learn more about themselves self-reflect and you know really pivot and moving those directions that they really feel called to do.
Scott: Very cool. Well,
Scott: I so appreciate you taking the time and coming and sharing a portion of your story and you know, I said thank you again, but I really meant it for allowing us to sir a front row seat along for part of the ride and it's just been amazing to you here a little updates from Lisa and and to finally get to meet you and people aren’t going to see you on here, but we're chatting via video and it has been fantastic. So I very much appreciate that. Thank you.
Scott: Yeah. No. Thank you Scott. It was surreal when I started actually listening to Happen To Your Career podcast and your voice I recognize obviously and then to have us connecting and talking today. It was a moment like this happening.
Scott: This is happening Ross. This is happening right now. Hey, this really has been very cool. And I've had a ton of fun and so that we can support what you're doing. And obviously I am a huge fan of that for many different reasons. But if you are interested in having Ross come and speak and want to get in touch with them. What is the best way that they can do that Ross?
Ross: The best way they can do that. I will have a website that will be up in available in the coming months. And that's going to be https://RossLoofbourrow.com. So if I need to look at the show notes actually, see how to spell that last name, but there's only one of me. There's no other Ross Loofbourrow out there in the world that I know. But then the other two way is going to be my Instagram, which is just Ross Loofbourrow really easy to find me there. And then the other thing I want to do to make it really easy for people to just connect with me, you know, to share their, maybe their email address if you want to stay up to date on, when I have new resources and just new things that I'm offering, they can actually just text me. So, my cell phone number, I'm happy to share is 8312273489 and I would love to connect with anyone. That is interested in just learning what is out there that can help them better understand and harness their, ADHD superpowers.
Scott: Very cool. Well, I really appreciate it. Hey,
Ross: Yeah, Thanks you Scott.
Scott: Yeah, I wouldn't want to cut off here for just a second and say two things. One people will text you. So just be aware that if I want to make sure that you're a 100% okay with that, like people have given their email addresses and just gotten still to this day will get messages from people and everything like that, so what to make sure you're totally okay with that. If you are that
Ross: I mean tell me Scott maybe you this is something I went back and forth on
Ross: I want to make it easy.
Ross: I don't have a website. I don't know and your and your experience like what? Since the only you know official modes of contact really I have right it's like social media and then like email. Yeah, what would you recommend? I just understanding that kind of journey that I will be taking, go on.
Scott: I would say two things
Ross: Because it’s mean a lot. I feel like a the phone number
Scott: Well it’s totally okay.I just want you to know that people will either text or call. So I just want to make sure that you're okay with that. I have personally done that in the past. I don't do that currently depending I guess depending on the show or depending on the contact and everything like that. Two things I think that you are you have a name that can be difficult to spell so I want you to be able to think about how can you articulate that in a cadence so that if people can remember it. When they want to have some ways I've seen people do that in the past as speakers are authors or people that are in our public eye type format. One way will be giving an analogy to something else where they can think of it and dissociate it. Another way will be to expel it in a way that is memorable. So like you have two r’s, right? Like you have two oo’s and two rr’s so Loofbourrow. That's LOOFBOURROW. But if you can do that in a way in which people can remember it and break down that may be useful or as you the other trick that we used to is.
Scott: We will use other things that are easier to say or easier to articulate to redirect to a particular website you might consider that so like Happen To Your Career. I've realized over the years when I named it. I spelling it on a blog and it sounded really cool at that time, but people can't hear it. Especially the noises room there like happiness like what?
Ross: Yeah. Right,
Scott: So a lot of times what we do is we will buy redirects from one URL to our main URL or to something else. So we have like https://figureitout.co and we have other things like that so like I don't know “ross.” whatever or something like that.
Ross: Yeah. I'm thinking I mean once the websites up, I’ve thought of having you know misspellings redirected. I thought about having like, people can type in like heroic ADHD in all like be redirected to my page.
Scott: When will you have the website up? let me ask that first.
Ross: So the website I hope to have within yeah, my goal is to have it up by the end of 2018. So by the first of the year. That's my goal. And yeah, I mean I might have something up, you know that’s a little more pair down sooner
Scott: Just killing a very basic single page. Big picture of you speaking and a contact form on it, like little, tiny bit of copy like, two paragraphs on. I believe ADHD is a super power and I've seen that show up in my life and like, want to connect with me speaking. I want you to connect speaking engagements like put something
Ross: How quickly do you think we going to post it now quickly do you think I could like, Is that because that something that you know, you can do through WordPress in like an hour?
Scott: If you know what you're doing then yes. Like you
Scott: Have it put together in an hour or you could let see here. Oh! We have you slated sooner than we normally do you are slated for the 20th and I don't necessarily whenever we have people that are on that have books or things like that. We always sell a ton of books for them. I have not paid attention to you quite honestly, like how many people get booked for speaking engagements or the other things I want to find, I know I do but I haven't paid attention to that type of feedback for some those passes.
Ross: Hey, maybe I'll take your advice then Scott. Cause I think that is a smart way to go is, so by 20th I get just very simple a page app that shares that you know, I'm going to like I offer speaking soon to be coaching and the things I offered them a place to capture email addresses and hear to you back from me. Yeah, I think let's go with that and what I'll do right now and I'll just make sure I get that done, what I'll do right now if we can record that real cool.
Scott: Slash makes magic and half, you got it.
Ross: I’ll say hey like, you can find me at https://RossLoofbourrow.com.
Scott: Let’s spell it out let's put it in there
Ross: I would say is that you can type in https://HeroicADHD.com which is much easier and then that will come to me as well.
Scott: Cool. Let's do it. All right.
Ross: Let’s do it
Scott: Ross if people are interested in hearing more from you, or maybe they're interested in having you come speak about ADHD. Where can they connect up with you? How can they find more about you?
Ross: Yeah, so my website is the best place to get in contact with me. That's going to be my full name Ross loofbourrow.com. It’s kind of a doozy to oo’s. Well several oo’s and a couple more rr so definitely check the show notes on that, but you can also just type in https://heroicADHD.com and that will redirect you to my website as well https://heroicADHD.com
Scott: I love it. Well, definitely go over there check that out and Ross. Thank you so very much again
Ross: Thank you Scott.