Everyone and their mother is going to email you about your resolutions and goals now that it’s the beginning of 2018.
I don’t want to do that to you. Plus you already know I have a serious aversion to doing what everyone else is doing!
So instead I thought I would give you an example of what NOT to do and then give you a complete step by step process of how completely reframe your future and change your mindset for 2018.
First: DON’T DO THIS (the “hope it will happen method”)
If you want to read more, how are you going to do it?
I used to read incessantly, but in 2016 I barely read 5 books (I may have actually finished 3 of them). During that year I said, “I can’t read more, I just don’t have the time.”
In 2017 I decided I wanted reading to be a part of my life again and have read nearly every book I could find on Human Happiness. Plus a few awesome fictional books. Over 20 books in total.
This didn’t just happen. It wasn’t by accident or because I had more time this year. Actually it’s gotten busier (kids Hockey, Soccer and Taekwondo anyone?).
I would say this is a fairly small life change for me.
What’s the difference between a meager change vs a paradigm shifting change.
Well the reality is what is in those categories shifts depending on your own spectrum, but here’s some examples:
- Losing 10 pounds
Paradigm Shifting Change
- Changing your diet so that you get down to 12% bodyfat and have a sixpack
- Taking a trip to Europe
Paradigm Shifting Change
- Negotiating with your employer to allow you to go live in Europe for 3 months
- Stacking $2000 into an IRA this year
Paradigm Shifting Change
- Having your house completely paid for in less than 5 years and still maxing out a ROTH IRA
What do you notice about the Paradigm shifting changes?
- The average person can’t imagine how it can work in their own life.
- Most of the world can’t “just do that”.
- You might automatically say, “that could never work for me”
It takes completely reframing your future to be able to achieve a paradigm shifting change.
More importantly when you go through the efforts to make them happen, you will not be the same person you were beforehand.
A paradigm shift you want to make might not have anything to do with travel or fitness or a “lack of mortgage”. It can be anything you want it to be. I’m very sure that there is something that you’ve wanted that you just haven’t thought it was possible so you haven’t seriously considered it.
FOR EXAMPLE: A few years back I badly wanted to be able to be available for my kid’s small events and volunteer at their school and be around for their small things (not just the big events like sports, school plays and concerts)
That might not sound like big change to you, but the process of identifying that I wanted it and then setting up my life to make this possible completely shifted my paradigm.
That’s what I want to help you do in 2018.
What will be your paradigm shift this year?
First step is learning how to reframe your future
We practice this reframing on our own team too. We had a team member who decided she wanted to work from Bali, Another that really wanted to be involved in the Hurricane Harvey Cleanup efforts. And earlier this year, my family and I worked from Portugal and then from France. All of these were huge challenges, none of them were easy to make happen…and if you ask anyone of us we’ll still say “it was awesome!”
And I’ve noticed that there’s a secret “brain trick” I go through in my own mind when I see a particularly hairy problem or issue — like finding a job with remote work potential, or building a business that empower me to travel and spend more time with my family.
Here’s my 3-step process to work through some of the biggest challenges and questions in your own path towards more fulfilling work, whether that’s remote jobs, creating a location-independent lifestyle, or another way to make meaningful shifts in your own work life:
1. Identify the challenge gauntlet ahead of you
Where are the places within your own life or career where you’ve thought: “people don’t do that” or “I could never do that”?
These beliefs are typically hiding in your mind as closed-ended statements about how the world works. Often they have qualifiers like “never” or “always” that make them feel extra permanent and extra true.
- I could never take a sabbatical and travel for 2 months
- People don’t just quit a job at Facebook to move to a smaller company with better work-life boundaries
- My partner and I couldn’t possibly start a business together this year
- I couldn’t possibly find work that pays me enough that allows me to work remotely
- People don’t just break into the tech industry as a woman
- I could never build a side hustle business on the side of my demanding full-time job
Now, words have power. They have such incredible influence on our beliefs that it’s critical to use them for good rather than to support limitations.
Cognitive psychology research talks about the idea of “confirmation bias,” or a heuristic (the natural “shortcut” tendency) that brains have developed so once they have an idea of a belief about the way the world works, they seek out data points and environmental evidence that affirms (rather than disproves) that belief.
Or, in pop psychology shorthand lingo from one of America’s greatest innovators and entrepreneurs:
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” -Henry Ford
I’ve seen this before in my own life: when I believe that Alyssa is going to be frustrated with me because I left the house a total mess, I start looking for the signs that she’s mad. Was that text message missing an emoji? Did she shut the door particularly hard?
And sometimes, I can actually MAKE her mad at me by being paranoid and asking questions about the behaviors I’m perceiving as being angry. It doesn’t usually get this extreme, but bugging her with a, “hey, did you slam that door because you’re mad at me?” “Are you still going to make dinner tonight even though I left my towel on the bedroom floor again?” “Do you still love me?”
(I mean, you’d be mad, too, at this point, right?)
2. Play a mind-trick on yourself with an empowering reframe
Because words have the ability to shape our perception of reality, let’s try some thoughtwork to transform them away from being at odds and opposing your ability to change.
In psychology, this is called a “cognitive reframe” of a thought, where you voluntarily take a limiting or destructive belief or thought pattern and intentionally look at it in a different lens or light.
For an example, in Career Change Bootcamp, we talk about this concept at length when it comes to the idea of your weaknesses — or as we re-frame them, your “anti-strengths.”
Many people struggle to put their fingers on what their gifts and strengths are, but can rattle off a list of weaknesses a mile long: “I’m disorganized.” “I’m a perfectionist.” “I drive people crazy with how detail-oriented I am.” (OR: “I struggle with details.”)
And when we re-frame these observations into a more empowering perspective, all of a sudden it’s like a million lightbulbs go off inside people’s heads. It comes from allowing yourself to wonder: “what if this “weakness” is actually a secret data point to reveal a related strength?”
Let’s take “I’m a perfectionist,” for example. Let me try the thought exercise of reframing perfectionism as a gift and not a curse. All of a sudden, it becomes: “I seek out perfection and optimal performance in everything I do — and expect it from my teammates. I am the person who you know will help you create the best version of your product because I’ll see all the tiny cracks before they become catastrophic fissures.”
An added bonus of a reframe here is that now you have an awesome way of identifying and speaking about your Signature Strengths. Knowing your strengths — and owning them — is a key way to get other doors to open for you.
That kind of subtle framing and phrasing shift takes a belief or painful thought that felt like destiny and a burden, and immediately transforms it into positive, creative, generative energy.
Now, let’s apply that same principle to reframing your gauntlet challenge belief.
Instead of “I could never” or “people don’t,” substitute the subtle but critical reframe shift to an open-ended question: “how could I…”:
- I could never take a sabbatical and travel for 2 months → How could I take a sabbatical and travel for 2 months?
- People don’t just quit a job at Facebook to move to a smaller company with better work-life boundaries → How could I move to a smaller company with better work-life boundaries?
- My partner and I couldn’t possibly start a business together this year → How could I start a business with my partner this year?
- I couldn’t possibly find work that pays me enough that allows me to work remotely → How could I find work that pays me enough and allows me to work remotely?
- People don’t just break into the tech industry as a woman → How could I break into the tech industry as a woman?
- I could never build a side hustle business on the side of my demanding full-time job → How could I build a side-hustle business on the side of my demanding full-time job?
3. Reinforce the new reality by looking for supporting evidence
With that new, re-framed question, challenge yourself to come up with 10-20 ways to answer it.
(Yes, really! And if you’re struggling, push yourself to come up with 30 ideas — err on the side of more raw material, not less!)
You are doing some sweet brain ninja work on yourself by now harnessing the power of confirmation bias and deploying it in favor of the reality you want to see in front of you.
What are all the data points I can imagine existing (that probably do exist, if I do some research) about how this could be real and true and the new reality for me?
Totally sneaky and awesome, huh?
Dig deep here! Here’s an example to get you started:
Step 1: Challenging belief: I couldn’t possibly find work that pays me enough that allows me to work remotely
Step 2: Reframe: “I couldn’t possibly find work that pays me enough that allows me to work remotely” becomes…“How could I find work that pays me enough and allows me to work remotely?”
Step 3: Brainstorm: How could I find work that pays me enough and allows me to work remotely? I could…
- Interview people I know who are working remotely to find out how they did it and how they make money
- Propose a shift in my current job to my boss of evolving into being a part-time or full-time WFH position
- Do research into the highest paying jobs and see what elements of those might be able to be done remotely
- Do I need fully remote work, or just more flexibility? See about getting a webcam or VPN setup from work so I can work from home on days with doctors’ appointments
- Define “pays enough” by creating a range of minimum, target, and ideal salaries so I can start to narrow in on possibilities
- Read case studies on businesses that have remote-only workforces, and send a note to a contact at those organizations asking them for their perspective on how it’s been
- Look at roles and industries that are actually improved when the employee is remote or able to travel easily: sales, coding, coaching, training, event planning…
- Start a location-independent side business now at my current job, with the intent to scale it. (Dropshipping, coaching, online information products, online stores, etc.)
- Take a class online about what you need to know to become a digital nomad
- Get coaching from a career coach on how to find these jobs and apply for them so I can be a stand-out candidate and increase my probability of securing the job
- Join location independent employee Facebook or LinkedIn groups
- Take a course at SkillCrush.com on learning coding skills
Check out Lisa from our team above traveling and working abroad this past summer!
And the list could go on! The more wild creativity and freedom you give yourself, the better. Don’t worry about “good” ideas or “feasible” ideas at this point — there will be a time for curating and cutting things down later. Better to get the full brainstorm of ideas out on paper first.
With a new set of tactics and tools like this to help you begin your paradigm shift
Plan 60 minutes on your calendar right now and save the link to this article to be able to go through this process for yourself, take those goals for the year, not the ones you set but the ones you know you wanted to and were a little afraid to set and work through the reframing process.
Next share this article with someone else who can benefit from it!
Transcript from Episode
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Lisa Lewis: Hey Scott, it’s great to be back on the Happen To Your Career podcast with you. I’m so excited to talk to you about one of my favorite things in the whole world, dreaming, scheming, visioning, and goal setting. With the beginning of 2018 upon us there is no better time to talk about recalibrating, refreshing, reframing and focusing for the year ahead. I know you are a particularly future oriented strategic person. I’ve seen your strengthsfinder and know this is true. Now that I have you dialed in I want to know, and so does the Happen To Your Career community, when you are dreaming and scheming of the year ahead and what’s on deck where do you even start? What do you have in mind?
Scott Barlow: So much. But here is the condition on which I answer this, I’m turning the question on you as soon as I get finished answering. Fair?
Lisa Lewis: Deal.
Scott Barlow: Hard to say no in the middle of recording. That is what we are going to do. Alyssa and I don’t really separate out life from work. We look at it all intertwined because it is for us. Maybe not for everyone but it’s how we’ve created and designed our lives. One depends on the other and we look at it holistically. Sometimes we break it into categories and having different goals for each section but that is where we start. We have something we’ve been working on for over a year now that I’m excited about and was tied into 2017 goals. We are taking a trip to London, Ireland, and Scotland for about a month. We are taking the kids. Last year, and we’ve resolved we want to continue doing this as long as it fits in and we enjoyed it – We’ve resolved every year to pull the kids out of school and uproot ourselves and live in another country for a month. We did it last year in France and so we are doing it again. Right now our tentative dates are end of April. This is fun too, we have been emailing with people that live in London and try to meet with people we have worked with. We have a lot of students in the UK.
Lisa Lewis: That is so awesome. I’m so jealous. I’ve worked with a couple and they are the raddest of humans.
Scott Barlow: We’ve had a couple on the podcast. Tanya for sure and maybe a couple other people. You can hear more about Tanya’s episode and the work Lisa did with her and her story. It’s amazing. That is one of our goals. We also have some really ambitious goals around the people we want to help and how we want to help them with Happen To Your Career. We have a lot tied into that. We have some new program goals we anticipate releasing. We have a whole bunch of stuff behind the scenes improving how we help people. In 2017 I resolved to read nearly every happiness book I could find that was research on happiness. In 2018 I want to take that research and embed it into our programs.
Lisa Lewis: That is cool. Can I be nosy and ask a follow up question to those goals for the people we want to serve and help?
Scott Barlow: Yes what is your question.
Lisa Lewis: I just want to know more. Tell me the type of goal on who we want to strap a jetpack on that is getting you so excited and jazzed for the year ahead.
Scott Barlow: One of the things I’ve realized as we’ve created our programs for people in certain areas of life, I have recently realized, and we’ve discussed it, that for those people who are incredibly ambitious and used to performing at a high rate and recently realized they want their life to be different than how they have set it up and want to work towards it. We’ve called it lifestyle design, life architecting. We’ve referred to it in different ways. I’m looking up a podcast you and I did.
Lisa Lewis: It was the life crafting episode. I can’t remember the number but we will put it in the show notes and blog post.
Scott Barlow: Search Happen To Your Career and life crafting and it will pop up on iTunes. Folks that are in that place, you and I were discussing, we’ve checked off some of the boxes and met goals and got there but what is next? Ironically that is the folks we are interested in helping with their problems and refining their lives. That will be a ton of fun.
Lisa Lewis: Awesome people what are ambitious, successful and checked the boxes looking for the next thing. How do they expand, grow, contribute more deeply and live more in alignment, that type of person?
Scott Barlow: Yeah and how do they go from where they are at to what feels like flourishing to them?
Lisa Lewis: That is such a good way to dive into talking about 2018 goals and framing but you threw down the gauntlet to tell my goals for 2018.
Scott Barlow: Yes we are going to do that first then we can talk about 2018 and flourishing. What’s going on in your world? I don’t know that we’ve had the chance to talk about this outside of this. Two birds one scone.
Lisa Lewis: (laughs) That phrase is courtesy of a dear friend of mine Christine because she felt that two birds one stone was a little violent for her tastes. Two birds one scone it is. The way I think about goal setting and life planning for myself is like a mindmap. I have different centers I focus around which sounds different than what you and Alyssa do where its integrated. I have things in different discrete buckets. Heath and fitness, relationships, spirituality, personal development, business. Some of those different centers of idea generation have more momentum and excitement and energy. After getting back from my 95 day test drive of what it is like to move remotely abroad. Coming back we talked about I had checked a bunch of boxes and achieved a lot of my dreams and was facing this identity crisis and panic of who am I if I am not the person saving up for this amazing trip and selling all her worldly possessions going off on this grand adventure. I’m finding my soul is craving for 2018 leaning into learning and growth and new skills. When I think of health and fitness goals…
Scott Barlow: Let me guess you are taking up Parkour?
Lisa Lewis: No I will let you do all those crazy vaults on your own. But what comes up for me is I’ve been playing indoor beach volleyball. There are several facilities in Colorado which is the coolest thing in the entire world. I get such a rush from playing. I have so much to learn from going from passable and able to be on a four player team to being able to play doubles and be a great partner in coeds or womens. I’m really excited about conditioning, practicing, training, going to clinics and investing in my body and health that way. I’m thinking about, if there is a Cuban salsa dancing community in Colorado because I discovered this in Bali and had a ball doing it. I’m looking for other communities that have that same interest and skillset. Apparently there are a lot of different versions of salsa and Cuban salsa is not one of the common ones. I want to see what and who I can find to advance that goal.
Scott Barlow: Side note if you know anything about Cuban salsa dancing in Colorado email Lisa at email@example.com. Moving on…
Lisa Lewis: That is where I have lots of energy, fire and excitement in my goal setting. I have goals for my business, personal development, spirituality and creativity. I really want to learn how to play guitar.
Scott Barlow: Context if you didn’t already know, our team is spread across the country and sometimes the world. With that we could maybe setup a remote band. Did you know I play guitar?
Lisa Lewis: No I didn’t.
Scott Barlow: How have we not talked about that? You’ve been to my house. Those guitars sitting there are mine; one is my sons.
Lisa Lewis: That is amazing. We are going to offer the Happen to Your Career remote guitar lesson that is the 2018 offering. You hear it here first.
Scott Barlow: All the goals are changing. They all have to change. We are sweeping them aside so Lisa can learn guitar. It’s about priorities folks. We’ve got the guitar, the beach volleyball and goals for your business. That is super cool but what about everyone else’s goals? They all probably have things they want to accomplish in the new year.
Lisa Lewis: Absolutely. I think every time you or I start working with a new coaching client we have this same process and questions pop up. What are we doing here, why are we working together, what is burning inside of you desperate to get out into the world even if its this burning fire with asterisks next to it? That is usually where we are able to make the most meaningful difference in someone’s life through coaching, being able to address those asteriks. So many people coming to us have a secret dream or something they haven’t articulated to other people because it feels so scary to speak it into reality because it would require such a magnificent and terrifying amount of change and transformation that we get the honor and privilege to be a safe space to explore that with someone.
We talk about goal setting with people and it’s a big thing because usually with the sort of things you care enough about to turn into a goal you want to do as opposed to those should goals like I should lose ten pounds or call my mom more often. If you don’t have a passion and excitement and a heart tie to that let’s not worry about it or do goal setting around that. Let’s talk about the ones that have the fire and life force inside of you to expand the person you want to be. Those goals have some challenge and require big changes. If it’s cool with you Scott we can talk about setting these big, hairy, scary, exciting goals. Identifying those asteriks that make it feel like it may be impossible or circumstances in your life that could keep it from happening and talking about the radical simple things that you can do to set yourself up for success in 2018.
Scott Barlow: We should do that. Really quick before we move into that. I want to call out the point you made about so many people have, I’m thinking of the fire with the asterisk, maybe that will be on our website, speaking it into reality, whatever that is and getting the motion going. That is often the first barrier. What is interesting is most people we’ve worked with on the podcast, it started with that. Being willing to actively take whatever you felt for a long time and admit you have been feeling it. Speak it into reality. I’m thinking of Matt Toy on the podcast. The first conversation we had was I’d love to start a yoga business for guys. He was afraid of it and made a bunch of excuses and now a year and a half later he is doing it and earning money. We have countless stories like that. That seems like the first step and a good kicking off point for this new year. To be able to even go after it and address barriers it has to be spoken into reality.
Lisa Lewis: Absolutely. I think the point you made about Matt having heard the call and rejecting it or making excuses is such a common experience. How many of us have had the fleeting thought of I want to write a book or run a marathon or start my own business or dismiss it out of hand and say I could never do that, I don’t have the time I’m too busy.
Scott Barlow: I’m not the type of person that does that…
Lisa Lewis: Yeah and I encourage you if are listening to this podcast and we talk about these little whispers and what ifs that call out to you. If there were anytime that felt like the moment to honor that and give it the possibility of a reality for you the advent of a new year and a new you is absolutely the moment to see what could happen.
Scott Barlow: Very cool. So we have that in mind. Let’s fast forward. Some people have begun declaring those things that they have been harnessing the flame with the asterisk for. This is going to get real funny real fast. Whatever it is let’s assume you’ve got those goals or challenges or you already know what you want to accomplish, to check off, experience for 2018. Is that fair to say? Can we jump in here?
Lisa Lewis: For our community in particular two of the biggest ones we tend to hear are 1) I want to start working for myself in some capacity, a side hustle or full on entrepreneurship. 2) I want to go from good or mediocre to great in my work. I want to work with a company that aligns with my values and get paid more to do what I’m doing. Both of those big radical changes come with lots of potential asteriks. To dive on in to the first step to making something like that happen to you this year, not a decade from now, is you have to identify what those the little asterisk are for you. I think about this as identifying the challenge gauntlet ahead for you. What are those little secret beliefs what are the stories you tell yourself about what you are and aren’t capable of that have probably been the roadblocks keeping you from getting started or being wildly successful?
Scott Barlow: Yeah, and we have an episode coming up with Laura Morrison and I know you know her more intimately but ironically last year at this time she had finally acknowledged she was ready to move on from her role and in January declared I am going to do this and have another job I want to be in by the end of the year and no more of this tolerating at the same place because I don’t know how to proceed. No more of that. Take a listen to that in a few weeks. It strikes me as a great story because she was in that place. She was getting well paid and had a lot of flexibility and things fairly desirable for people but still in that toleration standpoint for several years.
Lisa Lewis: Laura’s story is so great and I’m excited for you all to get to listen to it. One of the things oftentimes for someone being well paid with flexibility on the outside has a job that looks good to everyone looking in, is one of the biggest stories we tell ourselves is this is a good job and anyone else would be jealous of this, I look successful. When you have one of those statements about how the world is supposed to work, you are in a position that looks great from the outside you must not be grateful enough or appreciative enough. That can be such a insidious story that will be the biggest fire extinguisher. Identifying that you are telling yourself a story that because this job might be perfect for someone else that you have to settle for it despite your soul craving something more. Having a sense of that story is a great way to evolve from being limited by it to having an intellectual curiosity and opening new possibilities.
Scott I bet you have tons of examples of these different types of stories people tell themselves that keep them stuck. Especially when you and Alyssa went to Paris with the kids for a month. Not everyone does that and I bet you had some of those secret stories and limiting beliefs show up and other people share those.
Scott Barlow: Yeah absolutely. And in our case we had been talking about places we wanted to visit for like ten years and it kept cropping up. We wrote it off for a long time that nobody can do that. Only a few people that inherited money or trust fund babies that can but not us. That is the story and script we told ourselves. Here is another one you mentioned running half marathons. For many years Alyssa said It’d be cool to run half marathon but behind the scenes would think I’m not a runner, I don’t do that and I couldn’t because I’d have to train and take a lot of time and other things would pop in. We had many conversations and eventually I got tired of it honestly. You’ve been talking about this for five years, let’s do it. I’ll train with you, it’ll be a pain in the ass but let’s go do it. We looked up Couch to 5k and that is the first half marathon we ran and now she had done like 5 or 6. That same set of stories. There are other beliefs. You wrote out a good article and you described a bunch of these stories like I can never take a sabbatical for two months to travel, people don’t just quit a job at Facebook or Google the king or queen of all companies to move to a smaller company, why would they do that. Especially for another company with better work life boundaries. Other things too like we couldn’t start a business this year that takes a ton of money and all the things.
Lisa Lewis: Words like that have such power in our lives. When we put those beliefs and power in the world there is the confirmation bias from psychology. Where once you have a belief on how the world works your brain starts looking for the confirming evidence to prove it’s true and treat it like a fact more than just a belief. I imagine when you and Alyssa were talking of going to France and thinking no one does that you probably found a million examples of people who haven’t done that.
Scott Barlow: Oh yeah weirdly so, same way when you buy a new Honda or something you see Hondas everywhere. Which is a different bias but functions the same way. Conversely what was interesting as soon as we decided we were going to go, about 18 months before, now we have to save and pay for it, but we found ways that it could happen because we had committed on a psychological level. It works both ways and you can use it to your advantage.
Lisa Lewis: Yeah and we’ll get to that later I bet but when you realize you have those stories and words have power and you are looking for data points that support that and play a mind trick on yourself and make the opposite argument and use confirmation bias to look for opposite data points it’s amazing what you can find. When you think of Jedi mind tricks you can play on yourself, in psychology this is called a cognitive reframe where you take a thought like nobody goes and lives in Paris for a month or nobody would leave Facebook or Google for something better and you flip it on its head to say some people do who does this? How can I do this? What are some examples of people who have made this change? Changing it from being a closed statement to a curiosity and question that is exploratory. Something that is open to possibilities the way you guys did saying we made this commitment so now how do we make it happen and set up our business so we can travel and it not be a huge hit to our family, life, etc and started to make incredible things happen.
Scott Barlow: Let me see if I understand this mind trick you are referring to. Take this story I’ve been telling myself and instead of looking at it at face value add how could I? How could I take a sabbatical or move to a smaller company with better work life boundaries? Whatever it is insert your story here. Is that right?
Lisa Lewis: Absolutely. Once you have come up with whatever that statement is if it’s the limiting belief no one is really that happy in their jobs and you then look for I think there are people who are happy in their jobs how do I find them. You put yourself into that mindset and then reinforce that belief as the new reality by seeking out the people who are happy, excited and motivating and what are they doing different. What are the workplaces that have the happiest employees? What is different about the workplaces? Are there certain industries or sectors for this? Is it something you would consider for your shift. The more you can push yourself to dig and seek new information on how it can be possible the easier it feels to make it happen.
Scott Barlow: Ironically that’s how this whole company got started or the precursor of how it started I was looking at those two, a bit of juxtaposition, we know from the work Gallup and other companies have accumulated that about 13% of people in the workforce really enjoy immensely their jobs and roles and that in the U.S. there are about 8% of people that make over $100,000 a year. If you look at the enerite world it’s a much smaller percentage. When you put those together like an overlapping venn diagram there are even fewer people that both make a lot of money, well paid, and love what they do. At that point you can go down the same track. You can either accept that story that only a few people do that so you should give it up or you can say how can I figure out what those people are doing.
Lisa Lewis: One of my favorite quotes from Tony Robbins is “Success leaves clues.” Once you see someone doing the thing you want to be doing it’s not a complete accident they got there. They had to leave bread crumbs that they left through their decisions the places they worked, skills acquired, people formed relationships with to open the doors to get where they are. You can reverse engineer a lot of the pieces of the paths once you look at a couple different people and models on how to get to what you are excited about.
Scott Barlow: Let’s assume that I have identified a couple of my stories and I have reframed it into the how could I do this. What is next?
Lisa Lewis: I Think the biggest thing to start is give yourself the intellectual challenge without seeking out other data points but in a theoretical space what might be possibilities to make that world your reality? Let’s say for example someone wanted to work remotely and they have the belief no jobs pay enough to work remotely. The only ones are call center jobs they don’t want. They do the Jedi mind trick to say how can I find a job that pays enough and lets me work remotely. You put on that creative brainstorm hat and think about all the wild and crazy and ridiculous seeking ways it could be possible and you open a new playing field of opportunity.
If all you are looking for is a job that pays enough and allows you to work remotely it could be working for someone else full time who has a flexible work from home policy, working for someone full time that is all remote workforce. I have a friend that works for a WordPress theme developer like that that and had a six week team summit in Thailand but other than that they can work from wherever they want on the globe. Maybe instead of working for one employer full time maybe it’s working for two employers full time doing two different remote part time gigs to get to the right salary and have flexibility and freedom. Maybe you start your own business that is location independent or travel to locations that could be fun. Maybe you have a secret dream of hosting leadership retreats or mommy baby play classes, emotional awareness classes, you can do those in a bunch of cool cities like San Francisco, then New York and Austin. When you think about being the boss of your own life and the ways you can fill those needs in a limited brainstorm of optimizing those things. You can come up with wild and exciting and expansive possibilities.
Scott Barlow: I love that. If we go through this in its entirety it could be 60 minutes worth of time total. If I think about the biggest things that have happened in my personal life a lot of them have come from this type of work. Sitting down and really considering what is it I have been wanting to do and putting dedicated time into the process to see what it could look like, how could I do it and brainstorming ways it can happen and allowing the work, it doesn’t just stop they are, but allowing that initial work and consideration to blossom and turn into the actual thing in the following weeks or years.
Lisa Lewis: Two things important about your story I want to highlight is 1) it doesn’t have to take a long time you can do it in 60 minutes but what makes the difference is if you are committing to it. If you are doing it just for the intellectual exercise that’s fine, could be fun, but if you have made a secret commitment or explicit that you are excited to explore this will be more powerful. The game changed for you when you decided to commit to running a half marathon or how to make Paris a real thing. That commitment is huge. 2) The other thing you said I want to highlight is once you do this brainstorm that is the point where we are pouring jet fuel on the fire and what is the next tiny baby step I can take to see if its a reality? Maybe it’s researching other people who have done it or if you want to work remote explore your current company’s policy or researching all remote workforces. Once you have the momentum rolling don’t let it die there. Block off time and make it a priority and put in the work to change your life and live your dream.
Scott Barlow: This is amazing. If you want to see an example of how this works and plays out and how you can spend your time to make it work you can go to happentoyourcareer.com/211. This is the 211 episode, how’d we do that? Head on over there and you can get an example and seeing it in writing for some learning styles is beneficial. This is super cool. I absolutely love you are thinking about this this way and I’ve gotten the opportunity to witness this in some areas of your life over the last 2 years.
Lisa Lewis: It’s been fun and wild. You saw this last year and me going from this idea of working abroad and then making it a three month part of my life in one year. It’s possible to get done and especially when you enlist the right people to support you and make it happen. I would love that if you are listening and going through this process, I’d love to hear from you. Send me an email firstname.lastname@example.org and let me know what big, bold, gutsy, goals you are thinking about. If you want some help with that process of what can be possible let me know. We can talk through email or on the phone because we are in the business of changing lives here at Happen To Your Career and we want to see people unlock new levels of happiness of fulfillment and contribution whatever we can do to help make that happen we want to do it.
Scott Barlow: It’s what we do around here as it turns out. I so appreciate you taking the time and making the time. We’ve had you on the podcast like 10 times.
Lisa Lewis: Not quite at Mark level yet, but I’m getting there.
Scott Barlow: You are catching up. A little behind the scenes we record these in advance and we are about to hop on a recording with Mark and Lisa to bring him back. The reunion and new tour at the same time. Look out for that in the future. Thank you so very much we’ll see you all next time.